There has been a weird sense of what the normal world would call popularity.

And I really don’t get it.

Something happened when I was in the hospital.  When people thought I might die, they really chose to do the absolute best and most they could for my family.

Food.  Support. Understanding. Toys. Comfort.  Distractions.

People chose that time when I wasn’t even really aware to try to learn who I was.  They read, they followed, they waited.

And some of those people were a little disappointed when I lived despite all doctor’s words.

Most were able to be full of joy and relief that I would start the recovery process.

Now, months after I came home and continued the recovery every day, there are those that will walk this path with me.

They choose to encourage me when I feel my spirits failing.

They pick me up each time that I fall….figuratively and literally.

They laugh when I do and they feel my frustration eating at me.

Some have said that I’m the “trauma of the month” or the “right flavor of handicap”.  It might be for some.  They might want to look and watch like bad car wreck, rubbernecking to see what happened.  I won’t lie.  I’m guilty. I’ve stared and strained to see.

But THAT isn’t popularity.

It’s fleeting and it will fade with time.

At the end of the day I know that it means a ton to have your support.  But I’d do it anyway.

For my kids.  For my husband.

For me.

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It feels like something more should be happening.

I go to massage therapy twice a week to try to make things that aren’t working…work.

I do all the exercises that the therapists have shown me.

I make the sounds, I form the expressions, I push on every crevice on my face.

Progress remains slow and….always too slow.

I have dreams about the parts of my body taking giant leaps forward. I have to be satisfied with the work I can do, and the tiny, baby steps that I’m taking.

I actually dreamed about something more.  I dreamed about the muscles of my face letting loose and my mouth being normal.  Again. I dreamed that I woke up and I threw both legs over the side of the bed. Then I got up and walked to the bathroom like I used to.  Used to.  I dreamed of throwing a baseball.  There was a sand lot where I had taken my kids and we just tossed the ball around. Over and over.  Laughing.

Dreams.

I always dream.

I dream of the day that I can walk with assurance. When my arm and hand work with total confidence.  There will be a time that I’ll smile with no self-awareness issues.

Until then I’ll take my baby steps of progress.

Small as they may be.

They ARE progress.

I take what I can get.

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going back to school might require drinks

on July 26, 2010 in Having kids

We went through the doors like a herd of drunk emu. To be honest I don’t know what a drunken emu really looks like. But, seriously, if it can cause panic on the faces of hairdressers in Great Clips across the country, you have to wonder if the emu might not know something we don’t. [...]

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at least i won’t have to bring too many shoes as i’m prone to do

on July 25, 2010 in The stuff that sucks

People have said the nicest things they can think to say.  Things that will encourage me.  Things that make me feel a lot better about seeing people I’ve known in the past and those that I will get the chance to meet. Whether sooner or later. But it doesn’t stop me from having the fears [...]

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i guess we won’t be having rice for dinner tomorrow

on July 23, 2010 in I can't make this stuff up

I’ve been lucky that week after week we’ve been able to have friends or family here.  It would have been so much easier if we lived in Tampa or Daytona, where we have lots of loved ones.  We have managed the past months on the hearts of those that taken time to come to Georgia [...]

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just in case you thought i was into blinding agony

on July 22, 2010 in I can't make this stuff up

I was on this phone call and the voices made me smile.  They took away the grumpy, moody shadow I’ve been living under and reminded me that if I wanted to be unhappy I could be.  I had that power myself. So I chose to do away with the negativity that has been trying to [...]

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