If you *think* this is about you, it very well may be

I have three kids, each three years apart.  Do you have any idea how hard it is to play a game with these three?

The 11yo doesn’t want to play down the 5yo’s level and I swear he takes his revenge in listening to her moan the fact that she lost AGAIN…the 5yo finds her interest in playing a game she knows she can’t win is gone…the middle child, the 8yo just wants everyone to stop forgetting that she’s there playing too.

So, there I am…trying to convince the 11yo that he has a responsibility as the good older sibling to be more patient, to try and help his sisters learn the rules and strategy and he doesn’t have to let them win, but he does have to remember that cutting for blood from someone younger and less experienced isn’t being any kind of winner.

So, there I am…explaining to the girls that instead of worrying about WIN WIN WIN, maybe you can learn something from your older, wiser sibling.  You can pick up the nuances of the game, you can watch the moves that are made and work at figuring out WHY he did that and what made it work.

And it’s a lesson that has to be reiterated again and again.


THAT whole analogy was a set up to complain about the horrendous amount of snide and snarky belittling going on between bloggers. This is the point where all of you who don’t blog and thought you were going to get some sweet insight into my kids may just want to go. Bloggers? You stay and read!


You have your long-time, established bloggers who have years of experience under their belts.  They have blogs they’ve been writing for years, relationships built with companies and PR agencies and can easily stand on high and look down their noses at the newbies and scoff, “You’re doing it wrong, that’s not how it used to be, you’re tainting the whole blogosphere.”

And then you have your newer bloggers…and YES, a few of them are like clumsy puppies whacking things over with their tails and drooling on the upholstery…but deserving your attention and affection too.  They’re frustrated because no matter how hard they try, they’re constantly being told they’re sellouts or corporate whores or worse….blogging without INTEGRITY.

Seriously, people.

*deep breath*

Everyone needs to get their act together…you need to mind your own damn business…if you don’t like the way it’s being done, unfollow/unsubscribe/unfriend/ignore, it’s NOT hurting you…is it so hard to grasp that to BE respected you have to act respectably?…manipulation and deception always comes out and is NEVER pretty….remember how it felt to be the new one around town…consider that those that are newer to blogging don’t know how it “used to be”, they’re trying to emulate the examples you set…don’t lose sight of the fact that the bloggers who’ve got the influence worked HARD for that with years of solid writing and forging the way for you to have this awesome experience (and NO, I sure am NOT referring to any ONE blogger paving the way for all of us…at ALL)…

….and finally? Please don’t forget that every time a Drama Whore tweets a bunny explodes.


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7 Responses to If you *think* this is about you, it very well may be

  1. Avalea @Avalea September 3, 2009 at 6:38 PM #

    New to your blog and glad to see someone call these ho's out. Not a blogger myself (publicly anyway), but I noticed a lot of back biting just before BlogHer 09 kicked off. Sad really. Some of the tweets reminded me of childhood and the whole clique thing. That's why I am friends with boys. They just light their farts, drink beer and watch sports. About the only drama that can come from that is misplacing the Lysol, not having the right-sized batteries for the remote or running out of beer. That? I can handle. Chick drama makes me wanna hurl.

  2. Lori Paximadis August 31, 2009 at 2:19 PM #

    This right here is sheer genius: "…every time a Drama Whore tweets a bunny explodes."

  3. Nap Warden August 31, 2009 at 2:13 PM #

    No way…not bunnies! Well said my dear:)

  4. Chicky Chicky Baby August 28, 2009 at 10:12 PM #

    Ooh, I've never seen a bunny explode before.

  5. Tiffany August 28, 2009 at 9:42 PM #

    So THAT'S what happened to all the bunnies……

  6. Griner August 28, 2009 at 6:46 PM #

    Great stuff, NSFWissa. I've often felt like there's a chilling effect on bloggers when the top-tier folks lay down the law on how other bloggers should manage themselves and their sites, especially when it comes to dealing with us marketing types.

  7. AkatC518 August 28, 2009 at 6:43 PM #

    Hello ::waves:: led to your post by a tweet from MommyGeekology.
    I get what you are saying because it makes sense but don't people blog anymore for the sake of blogging? I know my blog is a journal for my own recollection, perhaps I am a minority? I guess this whole blogosphere with its nuances, sponsers and whatnot is foreign to me! :)
    Just a comment since I was stopping by. Sorry there's drama and well said, of course. ;)

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