It’s hard when you’re offered something you’d like to take advantage of, but you have to figure out the right way to tell them that you’re in a wheelchair. Do you tell them casually, pretend that everyone knows, and it’s no big thing. Or do you say it sort of pointedly so there is no mistaking the issue?
All of that so they can write back saying that they knew all along. They were aware of the problems and want to make it as easy on you as possible.
Then you get to suck.
Because a part of you is glad that they take all your needs into consideration. You’re thankful for the kindness that it takes to be that knowledgeable.
But at the same time you feel icky. Because you know that people probably had a conversation abut how to make things work for you. Somewhere there’s a piece of paper (or a stack) about you and how you don’t do things. At one point a person had to decide to make the offer to you.
They felt it was more likely that you would agree than not-agree.
Then I will swallow all those GAK! feelings and take their offer with the gratitude deserved.
And I will say thank you.
And mean it.