if you feel the need to comment

Something that was explained at Bloggy Boot Camp was “how to get more comments“.

Now, I won’t lie and tell you that I don’t appreciate when a post resonates with a reader in a way that makes you feel the need to take time out of your busy life and leave a comment.

I do.

It thrills me to the little tips of my soul.

But I never write with that in mind.

There are places I write where I will use the tricks of the trade to encourage commenting, but I get asked to do that.  It makes it part of my job.

This is my place. Never my job.

I used to be worried if my comments seemed down.

Not so much anymore.

I have better things to worry about.

So do you.

So I’m really not spazzed out when another blogger gets hundreds of comments and I only get one.

First off, I could never respond to everyone and I would feel terribly guilty.

Secondly, I only want you to comment if a post really matters to you.

C) That one comment matters just as much as the ninety-ninth. Maybe more.

If you’re not getting the comments on your blog you’d like, please don’t stress.

Remember why you stsarted writing in the first place.

I hope it wasn’t to get comments.

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15 Responses to if you feel the need to comment

  1. Sarcasm Goddess November 4, 2011 at 1:07 AM #

    Hi! I’m a new reader. I found you through the Animated Woman and I’m so happy I did. This post was exactly what I needed to read. I’ve been having a “down” day because I didn’t get as many comments as I normally do on my posts. Which is crazy for a number of reasons, some of which are if this had been a year ago I would have peed my pants at the number of comments and secondly, you’re right I didn’t do this to get comments (although it is nice to know i”m not talking to myself). It’s kinda silly, but I take it personal when people don’t comment. “they must not like me anymore!” Anyway – just wanted to say thanks. Looking forward to getting to “know” you better! :)

  2. Chloe November 4, 2011 at 12:18 AM #

    Thanks for saying this. I started to worry after BBC that maybe I’m doing something wrong. It’s good to have a reminder that I need to keep my focus on my end and not on the comments.

  3. Susie November 1, 2011 at 11:28 PM #

    Why do I come here? I just love coming to your blog because I never know what to expect. Sometimes I laugh out loud. Other times, I find myself teary-eyed. Other times, I find my mouth open in surprise. Many times I just savor the words when you write something profound (and in very few words).

    I have no blog but I love writing that moves my soul. I’ve wanted to be a writer since the 4th grade. If my son who’s into graphic arts, will design me a blog site, maybe one day I’ll start, but right now, I’m content to say…
    Now go get tomorrow, Anissa, like you always do…

  4. kyooty November 1, 2011 at 9:33 AM #

    I like the conversations feel of comments.

    kyooty´s last post…Friday FoodFight October

    • Anissa Mayhew November 1, 2011 at 9:52 AM #

      comments feel great, but they aren’t the measure of what you’ve written….your commenters probably love that they DO get a conversation with you. .

  5. Janmary, N Ireland November 1, 2011 at 4:30 AM #

    I love the phrase “this is my place. Never my job”

    Sometimes it is easy to forget that.

    • Anissa Mayhew November 1, 2011 at 9:50 AM #

      Just remember who you write for

  6. Joanna October 31, 2011 at 9:09 PM #

    Hi Anissa,

    I read your blog all the time. Sometimes your writings are so profound that I am moved to tears. I just quietly compose myself and while I am wiping my misty eyes, I forget to comment. Other times, I am laughing to hard to comment. I am glad for the reminder.

    I get very few comments on my blog. It is so great to get feedback on our efforts. I consider myself lucky if I get one comment a week.

  7. TechyDad October 31, 2011 at 2:36 PM #

    When I first started my blog, I began to get discouraged as I would write what I thought were these excellent posts and they would get zero comments. In the course of a month, I’d be lucky if I got 5 comments. I’ll admit I considered stopping blogging because I wasn’t getting comments. Then I realized that I wasn’t blogging for the comments, but for myself. I like having an area where I can express myself with as few limitations as possible. If I get comments, that’s great. If not, I’m not going to stop blogging.

    TechyDad´s last post…Have a Zombie Halloween

    • Anissa Mayhew October 31, 2011 at 2:52 PM #

      EXACTLY!! If you want instant feedback you go to twitter or FB, but a blog is a space where you write these love letter to life and let other read them. Don’t stop.

  8. Allison October 31, 2011 at 1:59 PM #

    I’m commenting because I want you to feel special and be thrilled to the tips of your soul. I also like to comment so people know I read what they took the time to write. And, I completely agree with you.

    Allison´s last post…Happy Halloween!

    • Anissa Mayhew October 31, 2011 at 2:04 PM #

      Consider my soul properly thrilled!

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