the rubix cube of separation

The choice to not be married came with the decision to be alone.

For a lot of people that thought is scary and daunting bur it comes with an extra layer of difficulty for me.

Now, don’t mistake me.

I’m not thinking about dating anyone. I could care less about some faceless guy.

But being who I am I have thought about the logistics of a situation that might come up down the road.

How does someone who can’t go to the store by herself go on a date?

It’s one thing if a guy likes blonds and you’re brunette, but what if he likes long walks on the beach and one whole side on of your face and body doesn’t work.

A friend of mines got flowers from her new boyfriend for Valentines Day, even something as simple as that is a major task.

I could do it.

But I guarantee that by the time I had the flowers in the vase the guy would think “never again”.

No, it’s not that I’m thinking about dating.

I think about it the way I think about every problem.

Objectively. For a solution.

This one just just may not solvable.

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5 Responses to the rubix cube of separation

  1. Diana March 6, 2012 at 12:26 PM #

    My husband works with a guy who has a girlfriend who has a messed up spine and is permanently disabled. They met online and fell in like. They met in person and moved in together. They’ve been together for quite a while and have a plan for when it gets really really bad… which it will someday. She asked why he stayed and he said he liked her.

    Some days it’s tough, like when she has a cold and he has to punch her. He vents to my husband who listens. But he loves her, and he’s in for the long haul. He never knew her any other way.

    So, it’s tough to imagine trying to figure out regular stuff, never mind asking someone to take it all on. I can’t compare my experiences, but I see these people and they are good together.

    Diana´s last post…Food News – March 4, 2012

  2. DogsDontPurr February 17, 2012 at 5:58 PM #

    When the time is right, it will happen. And don’t be discouraged by your disabilities/challenges. Since I became crippled, oddly, I have got more attention from men and been hit on (romantically) more that at any other time in my life.

    In my antique business, there is a saying that just like there is a lid for every pot: there is a buyer for every item…it doesn’t matter what price you put on it, you just have to wait for that person to find your store and it will sell.

    I believe that in love, it’s the same deal. There is someone out there for everyone….you just have to find each other.


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  3. BalancingMama February 17, 2012 at 2:56 PM #

    You are brave and strong and so admirable. My SIL is still married to someone who literally abandoned her at Shepherd Center and never came back. To someone who chose a past addiction over his wife. To someone she can’t actually live with because he refuses to help with care. She’s still married… probably because she is afraid of the what ifs in the future.

    You took your first step for you – good job.

  4. Chunky Mama February 17, 2012 at 1:20 PM #

    Any guy (or friend) who is worth the effort of getting to know will focus on your determination and not your limitations. :)

  5. Becky Campbell February 17, 2012 at 11:08 AM #

    Oh, Anissa…anyone who doesn’t love you for what’s on the INSIDE…doesn’t deserve you!;) Love, hugs and blessings!!♥

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