In the heat of arguing things get said with intent to hurt, to destroy, to mar.
Afterwards come the apologies, the explanations.
Didn’t mean it.
Was a mistake.
Didn’t stop it from hurting.
Doesn’t suddenly make it ok.
OH….You didn’t MEAN it.
That changes everything.
It still devastated.
It flayed the the layers of my soul.
You’re so sorry so you said it.
I am too.