When Peyton was diagnosed with cancer the doctor gave a very important bit of advice. It wasn’t about her diet or meds, it wasn’t what we could do to make chemotherapy go smoother for a child.
It was that when the treatment was all complete and we moved on with life - and to have faith that we WOULD finish and be able to move on – that we would have to live with the person we created during treatment. Treat her normal and the same as we would any of our other kids.
We took that to heart.
We watched untold families show relentless favoritism and saw sibling that were ignored and forgotten.
I’d love to say that our kids never suffered at all for Peyton being sick. They did.
I’d be proud to say I never caved and gave in to Peyton’s every little whim. I’d be a big liar-liar-pants-on-fire though.
I AM happy to say that years after the treatment is over, these are little people you can actually enjoy being around. ALL of them.
We did what that that doctor said. We completed treatment. We left treatment behind us. We kept our kids the same kids they always were.
There was a time in the hospital when I couldn’t do for myself. Others did for me.
Then came the time the time when they started to teach me that *I* could still do things for myself.
Since that time, everything has been a lesson in strength, endurance or independence.
People could have done things for me and made my life easier but it didn’t make things better.
I chose to do things the hard way. Do things for myself. Come up with my own solutions. Ask for help when I need it and be thankful when I got it.
There’s no shame in the word INSPIRATIONAL.
There, I said it. I didn’t choke.
There are people around me who inspire me with their candor, bravery, wit, wisdom, creativity, humor, genius and capacity for MORE.
Don’t ever think I’m inspirational because I didn’t die.
That sort of makes me Harry Potter. Not Hermione, the smartest girl and hardest worker. Not Ron, the friend with the most loyal heart and action in the face of fear. I’m Harry, the one that didn’t die.
Every day you open your eyes and you are as good as Harry Potter. You have not died.
You have the rest of your day to inspire someone.