the dance of sacrifice

When two parents are separating it’s easy to let anger and hurt take priority over the children you share.

Normal people, those unhindered by handicaps, have the luxury of furious departures.

Something the wheelchair, and the limitations that go with it, have forced upon us is greater compromise.

The reasons that we can no longer be a couple are still there, but they are ours and they are private.

No matter the reasons or arguments or unfathomable emotions we share a bond stronger than any judge or preacher could try to make.

The three lives that we brought into the world together will forever tie us.

For them we can be better people.

For them we can make the hard choices.

For them we can stop focusing on US and direct our energy where it should be, concentrated on making sure THEY have the best life possible.

We’ve done sickness and health. We’ve done richer and poorer.

I’ll let you know if this is better or worse.

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4 Responses to the dance of sacrifice

  1. Lisa May 9, 2012 at 11:28 PM #

    You two never cease to amaze me. Going at this way…strength on both your parts for even trying.

  2. Susan in the Boonies May 9, 2012 at 10:32 PM #

    I know more people than I wish I knew who are divorcing right now.
    My biggest concern, of course, as yours is, is for those kids. Nothing could be more important.
    So glad both you and your husband are making every effort to keep that at the forefront.

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  3. the Domestic Goddess May 7, 2012 at 8:16 AM #

    You are doing it so much differently. There is often so much hate and anger and hurt feelings that get in the way and the kids are the ones that have to deal with the brunt of the pain. My husband had to deal with is three times from each parent, if there is one thing he is determined about it is that no matter what happens he will not let our children deal with our issues.

    When your kids are older and understand it from an adult’s respective they will respect your choices and will understand why you are doing what you are doing, and they will be grateful you did it the way you are doing it.

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  4. Kristin May 6, 2012 at 11:58 PM #

    I hate that you are having to deal with separation and the dissolution of your relationship but I have to admire the class and dignity y’all are handling it with.

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