A friend emailed and told me about a grocery list of craptitude that had happened to her and her family and all the fallout she was stressing about dealing over. Then she finished with “…I know it’s nothing compared to what you go through.”
For a second I wished that Google would develop GSlap because I needed at that moment
1.I really hate being the shit-stick by which others measure the bad things in their lives. Like “I just woke up in a bathtub full of ice missing a kidney, but at least I’m not Anissa.” or “My car just went off a cliff and rolled100 feet to the bottom of a mountain where it exploded taking out a bunch of bunnies and orphans but things would really blow if I were Anissa.”It really sucks to be that person.
2. Just because some really challenging things happen to me doesn’t mean I’m not capable of caring about what’s happening in your world. If anything, what I’ve been through has made me a more empathetic and caring person. Give me the chance to be a friend. Let me one for you. You’re never weighing me down and if you were I’d be the first to tell you that I just can’t be there for you the way I want. 99,999 times out of 1000.000 though I’d be honored to help carry your load.
Unless your load is spiders. Then you’re on your own.
3. Don’t compare our burdens. Don’t ever act like yours is less because you THINK mine is more. Yes, I’ve had a lot of bad. I’ve also been blessed with an amazing amount of good. It has been worth it.
You know how NOT to be a good friend to me? Fail to give me the opportunity to be a friend to you.