measuring your worth

As a blogger there are many ways to quantifies your worth. Comments, traffic,  followers, “friends”,  lists that rank you, prestigious awards you’re given, all manner of opportunities to show your skill level.

As a person there are status symbols we seek that announce our place in society. The vehicle, the clothes, the house in the neighborhood, our kids in the right schools, do they have the best toys? Newest games?

Trophies of sport or spouse.

A while back I moved in a circle af military wives whose husbands were no longer in service but they still found their social hierarchy to be one of rank. As the wife of a nonmilitary man I was expected to take a “lesser” role. They had obviously never met me.

 We let ourselves be defined the limitations or shortcomings we find in the requirements of others. Flawed perfection we can’t see within the blinders of society.

In so many of the measures women are trained to hold themselves in esteem I find myself lacking. Much has been taken from me and left me with the realization that truly the most profound worth can be found in self.

Stripped bare.

Raw and guttural.

Taking apart all the masks we use to hide our fears, weaknesses, lapses.

There I find my worth.

In my darkest moments I find the spotlight of my strength. There is beauty in the freedom of bravery. The absolute confidence in being what I can be beyond what I should be.

Where do you find your worth?

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5 Responses to measuring your worth

  1. Becky April 21, 2013 at 2:07 PM #

    Pertinent. Every girl needs to read this and have it instilled within before beginning the adulthood journey!

  2. Alexandra April 17, 2013 at 10:03 AM #

    That is no small thing. To be free of fear of judging, to voice your thoughts and and own them. To play for yourself and not for others. You are a wonder to know, A, and I”m lucky to have found you so many years ago.

  3. Beth Zimmerman April 16, 2013 at 7:36 PM #

    As a blogger I am prone to the temptation to define my worth by the numbers. In life it is more about how well I met the expectations that defined me as daughter, sister, friend, wife, mother. After being knocked around a good bit by expectations that I failed to meet, including many that I held for myself, I came to a place where I had to find my worth, truly and completely, in who I am in Jesus. If He says I am worthy, significant, beautiful, and loved … who am I to argue? =)

    Beth Zimmerman´s last post…Please Hold My Mail – I’m In Facebook Jail


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