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i wish i was on a beach somewhere

By the time you’re reading this I’m either having surgery on my left eye for the double vision or I’m recovering from the surgery. Unfortunately, neither option involves Ryan Reynolds. Big thanks to Pete for helping me out with this very nerve-wracking day. Since I’ll be out of commission I’ll replay an old post from [...]

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the dance of sacrifice

When two parents are separating it’s easy to let anger and hurt take priority over the children you share. Normal people, those unhindered by handicaps, have the luxury of furious departures. Something the wheelchair, and the limitations that go with it, have forced upon us is greater compromise. The reasons that we can no longer [...]

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team parents

The fog is lifting. It isn’t gone. It mat never leave. It PROBABLY won’t ever leave. But the fog IS lifting. The lifting of the fog comes with working together for a common goal. it would have been a thousand time easier to have won each battle and just had my way. It would have [...]

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who loves the kids?

Parents in a situation like ours have a ROUGH LIFE. There is no easy way to separate something that was never intended to be separated. We didn’t live our lives with the thought that someday we would have split it up. Parents have an incredibly hard job. Divorcing parents can make a hard job EVEN [...]

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making decisions that are hard

I’m sitting here trying to think of the “right” way to write this. I could write this in a way that would get ME all the support and make Peter look like the enemy. I could write this in a way that makes me look like a victim and make you feel sorry for for [...]

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back-to-school with Invisalign

My kids have gone back to school. *ANGELS REJOICE!* This time of year means getting school supplies, clothes and the challenge of being a really thorough Invisalign aligner wearer. So, in preparation for the back-to-school thrill-a-thon, we put together a short list of THING THAT WORK FOR US: Colgate Wisps – little, single-use tooth cleaners.  [...]

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the world’s best timer

Check me out at Babble today: This Holiday Brought To You By Chocolate

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taking volunteers to be my first passengers

This was my first car. Without the paint job. And rims. And sound system. And backseat. BUT JUST LIKE THAT! (I was so gangsta’) In the past there have been sporty little cars and behemoth SUV’s. Of course, now there is a minivan that I ride in, but can’t drive. Pete was at a store [...]

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how we do things: the money bowls

<– Money Bowl The Mayhew kids went to their loving mother and said, “Mom, we’d like to do extra odd jobs to earn money to save for things like college or annuities.” Mom Mayhew clapped her hands in joy and showered the children in countless dollar bills. They all lived happily ever after. The end. [...]

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how to be a “pusher”

I‘ve had a few friends become “pushers”. Not so much drug pushers, but wheelchair pushers. Although, drug pushers can make birthday parties more fun! In the months gone by, I’ve seen people grow more aware of what people in wheelchair are dealing with every day. A store where the aisles are too narrow. Sidewalks with [...]

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simmer and boil

Peter has always felt every stress intensely. And it shows. I also feel every stress intensely. I try not to let it show. His boils hot, blows over, then is over. Mine simmers below the surface for a long time. We’ve had a lot of stress to deal with over time. We’ve had stresses that [...]

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talks with Dr Weight and tips that work for us

Dr. Weight called. The doctor’s who’s job it was to discuss any long-term body issues like bone density, growth or WEIGHT. We talked long and hard about what Peyton took from that conversation. We discussed how hard it is to make sure survivors are getting the care and SURVEILLANCE they need. We went over how [...]

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i have been known to keep counters clean

You can watch this video if: we never speak of the last trash dump that left it’s mark in the tray you don’t ask about the Nutella in the corner, you can’t have it you don’t say “WTF is the “thing” on wheels that you can almost see” -  it’s the shaved ice machine OK. [...]

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