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things you have to learn

lesson 1: how to laugh

on August 27, 2010 in things you have to learn

Tweet People have asked, “How can you still laugh?” To be honest, I understand the question very well. It would be just too easy to let it all take over.  To give in.  Give up. It is a slow, baby-stepping, small-improvement, thankful-for-every-tiny-thing kind of thing. And I laugh. Maybe some don’t, but I have to. [...]

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another slice of the past you have to give up

on August 16, 2010 in The stuff that sucks

Tweet It’s hard when I’m watching my friends make plans and I know I can’t go.  Not because of cost or convenience (although those are always issues) but because of what I can and can’t do. I worry about about being the party pooper.  Being the one to one to ruin plans.  Or to bring [...]

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did i really just write a whole post about facebook?

on August 11, 2010 in things that make me cry

Tweet There are a bunch of posts begging to be written. The ones about our panel, our time in  NYC, what it was like with the chicks I adore most. Aiming Low chicks, if you were confused. But today I had to do something that took a pretty big step. And it seems kind of [...]

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every day is a fresh start, sort of like a summer’s eve

on August 1, 2010 in things you have to learn

Tweet In my first days home from the hospital I had to get used to being in this space. It was a much different time in my life. I had to learn to feel safe again. I had to learn that there was a place I could stage my battle with my body.  I had [...]

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when the right reasons are selfish

on July 28, 2010 in things that make me stronger

Tweet There has been a weird sense of what the normal world would call popularity. And I really don’t get it. Something happened when I was in the hospital.  When people thought I might die, they really chose to do the absolute best and most they could for my family. Food.  Support. Understanding. Toys. Comfort.  [...]

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when you know you suck but you can’t really help it

on July 21, 2010 in things i have to do differently

Tweet It’s hard when you’re offered something you’d like to take advantage of, but you have to figure out the right way to tell them that you’re in a wheelchair.  Do you tell them casually, pretend that everyone knows, and it’s no big thing. Or do you say it sort of pointedly so there is [...]

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